"Did You Know I Lead a Cult?"
Someone told me recently that, measured by the degree of their 
loyalty, my ezine readers are almost a "cult!"  After thinking 
it over, I had to agree - to a point.  I hardly think any of 
them will drink poisoned Kool-Aid cocktails for me, but they 
ARE loyal.  And, since they are, they buy. 
How many times have we read it?  "The money is in the list." 
And, it's true. 
Online marketers who publish ezines can testify: the days they 
get the most sales are the day they publish, and the following 
day.  So, of course, the money is in the list. 
Based on that, it seems logical for would-be marketers to build 
a list.  We read article after article on building huge lists. 
Numerous ebooks have been written on the subject. 
Unfortunately, that isn't the whole answer. 
You may also have heard that it's better to have a small, 
responsive list than a list of, say, 50 to 100 thousand 
unresponsive people.  That is the greater truth!  Going through 
hours, days, weeks, months, even years of gathering subscribers who will never read 
your ezine is an exercise in futility. 
Now, How Did I Build This "Cult?" 
At first, I didn't know how it happened.  I did know I hadn't 
done anything deliberately to bring it about.  So, I started 
re-reading months of feed-back to see what my subscribers were 
really saying.  In reading between the lines, I was able to see 
a pattern and figure it out. 
Realize that this is not a new list.  I started my first ezine 
in February of 1999, and it never hit 10,000 subscribers. 
Doesn't sound very successful, does it? 
Part of that is because, every couple of years, I "clean" the list.  I ask everyone to reconfirm their subscription.  That causes everyone who hasn't been reading to get lost.
Yet, I still have some people on that list who have been there 
since the beginning - and they read the ezine too!  Not only 
that, all I have to do is give a personal recommendation for 
something, and BANG!  If they need it, or want it, and can 
afford it, they buy it. 
How did it happen?  Trial and error.  Since I'm not big on 
listening to the "gurus," I do everything by trial and error. 
Lots of error.  And, since I am not a guru, maybe I can just 
give you some ideas. 
If I had it all to do over, I would do these things from the 
beginning.  This all happened over time.  My topics below may 
say what you "should" do.  But, I'm going to tell you my own 
experience.  Then, you can decide what might work for you. 
Be Careful Where You Get Your Subs 
When I started, I did submit my ezine to every ezine directory 
I could find.  That was a good thing and, although I don't do 
it anymore, I still recommend it.  I'm still getting 
subscribers from those directories for an ezine I changed the 
name of years ago. 
Why don't I do it now?  Because it's time consuming, and I 
don't have that kind of time anymore. 
I tried buying subscribers from one of the sites that takes 
subscriptions for you, and sends you a list.  Forget that! 
Once was enough! 
Half the time, those people didn't even remember subscribing. 
I'm also convinced that some of them didn't subscribe, since I 
got bogus email addresses, even though these were supposed to 
be confirmed requests. 
The rest weren't all that interested.  They probably subscribed 
to a bazillion ezines from that site and found themselves on 
overload.  Watching the number of unsubscribes from that group 
told me they simply weren't that interested in what I had to 
offer.  Certainly not worth what I paid to get them. 
At some point, I began writing articles and sending them to 
other publishers.  I asked them to use a resource box with a 
subscribe link to my ezine.  That worked big time. 
However, my articles weren't the "norm."  No bread and butter 
there!  I took a stand!  I had opinions!  Even if it was a "How 
To …" article, I took the time to add commentary.  I let people 
know how I felt about things. 
My articles had a quality that allowed the reader to get a feel 
for my over-all point of view.  The articles clearly showed my 
writing personality.  Those who subscribed to my ezine because 
they liked an article already knew there was something about me 
they liked. 
Those who hated my opinionated style didn't subscribe.  So, I 
didn't have to deal with them canceling later.  Which brings us 
to ... 
Don't Be Intimidated 
In the beginning, I was terrified of my subscribers.  Losing 
one was a fate worse than death.  Not to mention it hurt my 
feelings.  Yes - it truly did!  And, having one chew me out 
would nearly put me in the corner, in the fetal position. 
Upon reflection, I believe this was because I worked so hard to 
get them in the first place.  Losing one almost seemed like 
failure.  And, why I was so invested in having every one of 
them love me is beyond my comprehension now. 
I decided I needed to toughen up.  I did.  Now, I can let them 
depart without feeling sick.  Some people just annoy me; I'm 
sure I must annoy just as many of them.  I've even been known 
to suggest that anyone who doesn't like the way I do things, 
should unsubscribe.  Gets rid of the dead wood. 
You Gotta Have a Gimmick 
Understand this was before I started sending articles to 
publishers.  I realized I needed to establish a style.  I 
didn't want to "make one up."  But, years in the entertainment 
business had taught me: "You gotta have a gimmick" if you want 
to get attention. 
Gimmicks shouldn't be phony.  I'd never have been able to keep 
up a phony style, or personality, all these years.  Nor, do I 
want to. 
A gimmick is simply something a little different - different 
from what everyone else is doing.  In my past life in the 
entertainment business, I saw incredibly talented people who 
never made it because they didn't have that elusive quality 
that made them stand out from the crowd. 
I also saw many people with limited talent go all the way to 
the top.  They knew how to be commercial.  They had something 
besides talent that sold. 
It comes down to this.  It isn't subscribers you want.  It's 
fans. 
Different people like different things.  What works for one may 
not work for another.  We really can't please all of the people 
all of the time.  If we think we should, we need to get over 
it; and as I said earlier, toughen up. 
Developing a Style 
Since I didn't want to develop a phony style, I had to figure 
out what I already had that I could use.  We are all 
multi-faceted people.  We have many different sides to our 
personalities.  My style needed to be some very real part of my 
own personality.  I knew if it wasn't, it would break down over 
time. 
I started watching my thoughts and feelings as I worked online. 
I found that I was fairly critical, and frustrated a lot. 
After many years in the world of business (another former life) 
I wasn't used to this free-for-all world of scams, no rules, 
and little competence. 
I decided to go with that.  It meant that I would have to write 
commentary.  I had the knowledge and experience to do that, or 
I wouldn't have even tried it.  I would have to give my 
opinions, and they wouldn't always be appreciated. 
Of course, we never get 100% agreement with our opinions.  But, 
I was to carry it a step further.  I allowed myself to border 
on the outrageous - to say things that were surprising in that 
few people would ever come right out and say it, let alone 
publish it - even if they believed it. 
In other words, I almost made a caricature of this part of my 
personality.  I made it extreme.  I exaggerated it to being 
"bigger" than I normally use.  I've been 
controversial.  I've offended any number of people with my 
direct, no nonsense views. 
If they're subscribers - they leave.  And now, I realize, 
that's okay.  If they don't like you, they're not going to buy 
from you - ever!  Unfortunately, I've never really learned the trick of 
keeping some of them around long enough to get the hang of me.  But, if they 
stay that long - they're mine. 
It's risky, but controversy ain't all bad.  In the words of 
Oscar Wilde, "There is only one thing worse than being talked 
about, and that is not being talked about." 
Nevertheless, I don't necessarily recommend that approach 
unless you have the stomach for it.  It was unavoidable with 
the style I chose.  But, it isn't absolutely necessary. 
I've seen other publishers build extremely loyal lists who have 
used completely different styles.  We have: the moms - the 
comedians - the gurus - the good ol' boys (can be of either 
gender) - the philanthropists - the geeks - even the blithering 
idiots who admit they don't have a clue! 
They all work.  But, trust me when I tell you - none of these 
people are only that part of their personality all the time. 
These publishers are simply using one aspect of their 
personalities, and raising it to an art form.  And, they may 
not even know it. 
Just Talk to the People 
I'm sure you've heard the advice, "Write like you talk." 
That's good advice.  I do it.  I even use a bit of slang, now and then.  Not so much as to seem ignorant, 
but enough to allow personality through.  When I write, 
"ain't," my readers know I'm using it for effect - to 
entertain.
And, since I know it's no secret, I've been known to swear, now and then.  I try to keep it down, but I don't strangle myself using "darn," when I damn well mean "DAMN!"  I don't necessarily recommend this unless it fits your style and personality.  And, I would never do it for sensationalism.
Here's the trick I use.  I write as if I'm talking directly to 
people I know personally.  I actually imagine they are the only 
people who will see what I write.  Even if I'm ranting and 
raving about something, it's always in the back of my mind to 
entertain them.  (I rant and rave a lot.) 
When we write for friends, we don't get stilted or tongue-tied. 
We let it all hang out and say what we mean, the way we mean 
it.  We don't hold back.  Writing for an ezine this way gives 
it a "tone" picked up by everyone who reads it.  It "sounds" as 
if you are "speaking" directly to a group of good friends. 
I'm sure you've also heard it's good to personalize your 
ezine, using the subscriber's name.  That's advice I do not follow.  That may seem strange, based on what 
I've just written. 
Instead, I write to my subscribers as if they're a group I'm 
standing in front of, speaking at a seminar.  I believe it 
makes them feel more they're a part of a very special group - 
which they are. 
That's something all publishers have to decide for themselves. I took a vote, and 
my readers tell me they like the feeling of the group.  The readers of publishers who 
do personalize have told them they like it that way.  It seems 
to depend on the personality of the publisher. 
But, then, my loyal readers don't like anything they know is phony. And, since everyone knows "personalization" happens via software, well ...
Ask Their Opinions 
Now, here's where I may have fallen down on the job for a long 
time. 
I received a nominal amount of feed-back from my readers. 
Nothing that would blow anyone's socks off, but enough that I 
could tell someone was actually reading that erag.  I always 
made a point of answering each one with a personal email. 
Then, one day, as I was starting to write one opinion or 
another, I found myself wondering what my readers thought.  I 
decided to ask them. 
I explained the situation in the ezine, asked their opinions, 
and gave them a way to answer easily with a mailto: link.  I 
did not tell them my opinion.  I didn't want to skew the 
results by having people think they needed to either agree, or 
disagree, with me. 
Wow!  I couldn't believe the response!  Here were people, some 
of whom had known me for years, and I was just getting to 
"meet" them!  The interesting part is, they wrote to me as if 
they really did know me!  The next week, I compiled everything, 
and wrote an article based on their responses. 
A couple of weeks later, I tried it again.  This time, I asked 
them to vote on something.  I gave them three, different 
mailto: links - one for each possible answer. 
Again - a deluge of email.  It was almost as if they had just 
been waiting for the chance to "talk" to me one-on-one.  What 
an eye-opener! 
The truth is, I had probably been intimidating them to some degree. But, as soon as they saw I respected their opinions, the world changed!
Respect Your Audience 
I do respect the intelligence of my subscribers, and I let them 
know it often.  I let them know by saying so!  Since I receive 
so much email now, I base that on what I read from them.  I'm 
not just flattering my readers.  They'd see through that in a 
Hot New York Minute! 
Although, I sometimes think it might "look" better if more of them used the blog comments, they obviously prefer our more personal email.  And, I have to admit, I enjoy their email - even though there's so much of it!  It provides nice little breaks in my day.
I also show respect for them by what I put in front of them.  I 
keep the ezine easy to read - lots of white space and no silly 
and distracting ASCII designs.  I give them original material. 
They can read the same articles in multiple ezines, but it 
won't be in my newsletter. 
For many years, I also used a copy editor, better known as "The Nitpicker."  We 
all make mistakes and I make plenty of them.  I'll see someone 
else's mistakes every time, but I'm completely blind to my own. 
 I know what I meant!  So, I had The Nitpicker go over every 
issue of the ezine before publication.
Lately, I'm ashamed to admit, I've been in such a hurry, I haven't taken the time for the proof-reading, like I should.  I just holler for the Nitpicker if I have a question on something.
But, my advice?  Use a proof-reader!
Let Them In 
After doing it for so long, it did get to be a strain keeping 
up the "style" all the time.  Sometimes, stuff happens, and we 
just don't feel like doing it.  I learned that this was okay 
too - after it was well-established. 
At some point, after my readers and I had become closer via the 
surveys, I had one of "those" weeks.  Even though I believe 
that our professional lives should stay professional, and our 
personal lives kept to ourselves, I shared with them a rather 
traumatic week. 
I didn't whine about it, or make them read through a lot of 
detail.  I just told them what happened.  BOOM!  An outpouring 
of concern!  Some of the things they wrote brought tears to my 
eyes.  Now, I realized that these people were friends!  And, I 
wouldn't trade them for ANY list of 100,000 subscribers in the 
world! 
The Bottom Line 
It took me a couple of years to build a list like this.  But, 
if I had it all to do over, I'll bet I could build this kind of 
loyalty in six months.  Most of the things I've written about 
here I discovered accidentally, and over time.  If I had it to 
do over, I'd do it all right from the beginning. 
Even with all my talk of "gimmicks," and writing in a certain 
way to seem like I'm writing to a friend, even though I may not 
know the subscriber at all, the biggest factor in building my 
list of ultra-loyal readers has been honesty. 
I've always been straight with them.  If I make a mistake, or 
find out something I wrote was incorrect - I tell them right 
away.  I know they've come to depend on getting the truth from 
of me.  I'll even tell the truths that others are reluctant to 
publish! 
They know I won't shine them on about a product or service - 
not even to get a sale.  Yet, when I give a personal 
recommendation for a product or service, if they can use it, 
they'll buy it as soon as they can. 
Now, if  you are one of my subs, and you're reading this, you may wonder if I just see you as a meal ticket.  At one time, that would have been true.  We gotta be honest about this; that's why we build lists.
However, over the years, I've come to know so many of my subs!  I now see them as trusted friends and, even, an extended family.  And, having that perspective, most new subs quickly become part of my "cult!"
So, building a list of loyal subscribers is building a list 
with money in it.  But, it all comes down to developing 
good, solid  relationships based on honesty, trust and respect. Nothing cult-like about that!